I can’t really remember the last time I went to see a movie. We opened with Bergen Cinema. Let me tell you – it will be a lot of spoilers for those who haven’t seen it.
Of course, there are many messages in the movie, but the main point is clear: male violence against women. Recently, attempts to understand the perpetrator by emphasizing “this guy is killing, but why he’s killing” have not been widely seen in the media. In one scene, we only hear that Hallis Ozgur’s father also beat him. But he doesn’t talk about it as if he’s hurt. She credits her father.
His movie is a lot like ‘Why are women trapped in this, how can they not escape, what is the cause of male violence?’ Focus
I would like to summarize some of the following messages:
1. Women who dislike their fathers are more likely to associate with criminal men
The address of this proposal must be a mental health professional. We know that those who fell in love in childhood, those who were driven by their parents, those who could not establish healthy bonds, those who could not separate the toxic relationships in youth, and they consider a circle of captivity as love. Experts are making a fuss about this.
Missing father (missing father), on the other hand, will not be with a person your father’s age; The point called ‘father problem’ still needs to be clarified. How much parenting practice and how much gender formation need to be discussed in this issue. The distance between the discourse of “my father is like a mountain behind me” and “my father is a sensitive man, he gets hurt easily” needs to be weighed while sitting.
2. Women need to get married to get approval from their family
It is impossible not to agree with this statement. Because there are so many examples … You know what we call intersectional feminism, some women are discriminated against in different ways at once. Kurdish women, women wearing headscarves and strange women face additional discrimination. One of these titles is the single woman in this geography. Married women are relatively privileged. At least they meet the expectations of the family and of course society.
It is an expectation that once married one is encouraged not to divorce again. Being a divorced woman is worse than being a single woman. The view of society and its smallest unit, the family, is that “even the worst marriage is better than no marriage at all.” So here’s how the sun goes down.
3. Toxic masculinity does not want strong women who earn their own money.
Hallis first takes Bergen’s car from him, pays his bills, and pays him. Later, the game became clear as soon as he hit his face. Then he stopped her from doing her job. There are no more women to buy cars by earning money.
Then he beats the woman every time “I will not live as you like, I will try for my own happiness”. Here’s what we call gender-based violence. Women are killed because they want to work, because they want a divorce, because they don’t obey, because they want to live the life they want.
4. The violent person finally shows his true face
Bergen’s mother (and even his father) understands at first glance the darkness of Hallis, his tendency to violence. No matter how violent Bergen is, the man he loves thinks his loved one “doesn’t hurt your hair”. Hallis repeatedly apologizes after each beating and accepts the gift. But the situation does not change. Violence continues to escalate. Days of the week. The cycle of violence itself is repeated. Violent forgiveness / gift, called honeymoon period, is only temporary. After a while, the violence escalated again.
At one point during the honeymoon episode, Halis cuts off the kids’ ball for no apparent reason at the picnic. That’s when Bergen realizes that the honeymoon episode is also a “balloon.” Because people prone to violence will eventually reveal their true selves.
5. The purpose of throwing eczema in the face is not to hurt, but to lead to social death.
Again, this is a gender based work. Have you ever heard of a person with bitterness on his face? For example, men are annoyed at their heels. It means threat. Women are the ones who face this act of throwing ecstasy in the face. It is a threat to women’s beauty and body. “Since you don’t want me, you can’t be with anyone but me. I’m going to do something with you that you don’t want to look anyone in the face. “The women’s movement has long struggled to classify this law as a separate crime.
6. Keeps the unity of women alive
Bergen’s life has always been full of women. His mother sews him up till morning to read. She follows him wherever he goes. The music teacher is working hard to bring her to the archives. The belly dancer at the casino became his confidant and comrade wherever he worked. Another female neighbor who kept Hallis locked in the room made it possible for her to keep her head out. Hatice’s older sister is defending her against other family members. Bergen’s mother said, “Did you think this girl was abandoned?” The murderer roars in the halls. Bergen draws strength from women, just like many women in her life.
When the movie is over, the rest of the emotions are angry. The man who blindly darkens the woman’s life like a flower. Moreover, he is not punished. This impunity, this criminal laundering makes people angry. Who knows what he is saying. But there is no such thing as complex privacy, Miszini.
In addition, the film very well reveals why women cannot escape and how they cannot escape. He gives a clear message to those who do justice from the glass palace, “Oh, if he also divorces …”. It can be a lot.