Gonca Kocabaş / Milliyet.com.tr – Although the concerns and negatives brought about by the coronavirus epidemic that have been going on for almost 2 years have not yet been overcome, humanity is now being tested by the coldness of war. While it is difficult for children to explain and provide information about war, it is also important to provide age-appropriate information. While wars are frightening and disturbing even for adults, it is not difficult to predict how children will feel in the face of these events. For this reason, it is necessary to explain how children fight. Expert Psychological Counselor Anes ChelikWe asked.
Emphasizing the importance of considering the child’s developmental period when explaining what a fight is for children, Anes Chelik emphasized that children’s cognitive levels may not be the same in different school years. Chelik said that parents should not start a conversation about war. “When children are curious about this, they must ask their parents. It is not fair to expect them to handle the anxieties and fears that we cannot handle. Up to an average age of 6 years, children look at life strongly and try to understand everything, they learn life through games. During this time, events and situations should be integrated because children cannot think abstractly. Says
‘What they see and connect in their lives’
Noting that children do not know the concept of death, Calic said, “The concept of war as death is an abstract situation that children do not understand, but are expressed through the media and parental feedback. Parents of preschool and elementary school children need to give short and clear answers to the question of war. ‘I’m always with you no matter what’‘I can answer any question. ‘ And ‘There is no war in our country, you are safe. The message should be given. ” He gives advice on how parents should explain the war to their children.
Anes Chelik says their parents’ comments against the war and their statements against the countries they support will create good and bad things in the minds of children. “When describing a war, it should not be used in a completely abstract way, such as fighting between two states, good and bad. Because war-affected children, women, homes and vehicles may appear in front of your child through the media. This will increase the level of anxiety in the bond. There should be no idea that the bad team is being punished.“He said.
Don’t say these words when talking about war
Psychologist Anes Chelik says that some words should not be used when talking about war with children:Sentences containing words like violence, torture, death, blood, life, bullets and weapons should not be used. Children need to be explained without using these words. For example, instead of the word enemy, words like foreign soldiers or soldiers from another country can be used. It is very important to use media tools consciously before words and to protect children from these negative effects. Children should not be exposed to news on social media, games and television, “he advised the family.
Noting that war is not a situation that needs to be explained unless it is on the child’s agenda, Çelik stressed that especially preschool children cannot create a feeling of war. Steel, “During this time, children’s use of guns in their play can have a negative effect on other children from time to time. The child will be curious when confronted with war-related situations. In this case, the brief can be explained clearly. Unless a child comes into contact with war at play age, unless it is said that there is such a reality in the world, it will increase anxiety and fear in the child. Says
If your child has these symptoms, be careful!
Anes Chelik, who warned that sudden withdrawal, silence, loss of appetite, sleep problems, nightmares and stuttering fights can cause anxiety and stress. “Your child, who is physically healthy at the doctor’s examination, begins to experience this type of problem, which can be a sign of a mental problem. The environment served to the child is very important here. Some studies have shown that children can build trust with their families, even on the battlefield, so that they can overcome this negative process more easily. Explained in his words.
Enes Çelik stressed that the phones and tablets they use should not be forgotten when children are kept away from war-like images on television and the necessary family control programs should be installed on the devices. Psychologist Anes Celik says wars should not be described as a struggle where strong victories are won with violence. “If there is such a perception from the children’s screen, it should be restructured. Children should be told that conflicts can be resolved more easily through proper communication and behavior rather than using force. Parents of children facing war on screen ‘I forbade you’, ‘If you look again, I will punish you. They should not make sentences that will impress the child more curiously and negatively. Instead, conversations that may reduce the child’s anxiety should be included. Made a statement.
‘War news should be presented in a very sensitive manner’
Head of the Department of Visual Communication Design, Faculty of Communication, Marmara University Assoc. Dr. Ali Murat is broken Inside Emphasizing the importance of protecting moral values for the media, especially on sensitive issues like war, he said, “As seen in the current war between Russia and Ukraine, lack of information can make people helpless and unstable. It is easy to manipulate at any stage of the conflict. It can make people hostile to a country or a community and we see them in the world media, “he said.
Noting that the news of the war should be presented very sensitively and should not include emotion, Assoc. Dr. Ali Murat Kirik said, “The news must be investigated and confirmed. During this time, especially on social media, the content that will cause anger spreads like a virus. Journalists should pay attention to these issues while creating their content and be able to present events from different angles. Need to stay open and avoid ambiguity. A title or a selected sentence can take the event to different levels, “he said.
‘It is never right to use without sensors’
Although the news of the war is being followed by users of all ages and at all levels of life, especially children and young people are stressed by these incidents, Assoc. Dr. Ali Murat Kirik said: “Some media outlets may include bloody images and pictures of people in the bombed area may be released without censorship. This is never true. It is the content, not the visual, that reads the news. Bloody images cause pain to people with amputated limbs, used as advertising tools. In this case, the ethics of the media is very important. The desire to make a profit, especially in a war environment, should be the last thing a journalist thinks, “he explained.
“The media should take a serious mission to further protect moral principles and values during the war and to provide accurate information to the society.” Says Assoc. Dr. Ali Murat Kirik has underlined that it should not be forgotten that people will be adversely affected by such news. By emphasizing the importance of news media without relying on social media, the association. Dr. Ali Murat Kirik said, “Images that show the reality of war can sometimes create fear and shock in people’s minds. From the lowest to the highest, everyone should put aside their ideology during the war and focus on social peace. Images and content should be critically filtered and society’s right to learn the truth should never be compromised. ”