Today, the concept of body and beauty has changed a lot, especially among girls. This increased the torture. The age of bullying in school has also decreased. It is most common in girls.
My daughter is 9 years old and she is in 3rd class of primary school. Some of her friends pressured her to be ugly and fat and to wear funny and childish clothes. We talk about this issue in our daily conversations, and I try to give her the right message, understand and support her without blaming her or anyone else. Child abuse is not just our problem, it is a global problem. Children also benefit from technology, social media, visibility and visibility, and a common understanding of beauty for men and women. Little girls are worried about being slim, beautiful, stylish and calm (!). However, they are just as beautiful. Children are pushed into the same perception of beauty. How do we protect them? I spoke to clinical psychologist OJJ CVC.
Children label each other based on their appearance. How does this situation leave traces on children?
A culture where increasingly hypersexualized and influential body messages are bombarded from all angles targeting girls the most. Through girls and young women, social media, screens and boards are full of items loaded with influential and defined messages about the body. There are images all over the face, including perfect, radiant skin, pearl-lined teeth, slender legs, molded, uniform lips and eyebrows. Let the body of girls become women quickly, the body of women never grows old and they are always young. A growing generation is also fighting for survival in this bombing. Those who follow the rules of influential media messages become bullies, those who try to differentiate themselves and the way they are victimized.
Families need to be aware of the reality of children
What should family and school management do about it?
Adults must first learn to recognize and interpret these influential messages. Critical attitudes can only be given to children by adults whom they trust. Values, perceptions of success, empathy and respect should be skills that children acquire in their families and develop in school. Children receive real-world references from their parents. Families need to be aware of the reality of children. What stress the child feels in the environment he enters, what he comes in contact with, can only be felt through a healthy family communication and safe relationship. We cannot isolate our children where the world has come digitally; However, we must first approach them with parenting, at home and at school, where we treat them with respect, do not give up our efforts to see their feelings, desire to have a relationship and have a stable position to protect it. Let’s accept.
Can you evaluate this situation in the case of mother-daughter relationship?
In fact, mother-daughter, father-son does not matter; Both are under biological gender stress. While girls are expected to look harmonious, kind, beautiful and graceful, boys are expected to be strong, vague and even “sorry” models. If these expectations take shape and are strong in the parent-child relationship, then parents should pay close attention to them. As our girls and boys grow up, we may inadvertently learn to play by the rules of their influential media messages. Although problems can be felt in a relationship if the birth of a child and the expectations of the parents are not consistent, a parenting that supports influential messages can raise the bullets of the future, whether it is a girl or a boy!
Modeling a happy and secure relationship
How will this affect girls’ relationships with themselves and their partners in the future?
Parents act as a mirror for their child for many years. The child receives feedback about himself from his parents. Although the mirror begins to turn towards peers and society as it grows older, the safe presence of parents is very important. Especially during adolescence, when the perception and social acceptance of peers for the child comes to the fore, it is very important to keep the relationship at a safe level, not to go away and ignore the problems that adolescents are struggling with. Parents’ own emotional flexibility and resilience. Children’s relationship preferences, their adaptations to relationships, are affected by the level of chaos in the environment in which they grow up and occur somewhere between what they want to protect and what they want to stay away from. Therefore, parents should act consciously against the relationship models they show; Does it model a peaceful, happy and secure relationship, or does it model a conflicting and volatile relationship that does not allow or accept?