Regarding the rights of parents, Islamic ethics says:
Allah the Almighty said to Moses, O Moses! If anyone opposes his parents, cut off his tongue, and if he displeases his parents with any of his limbs, cut off that limb! ”
The two gates of Paradise are opened for the one who pleases his parents. The two gates of hell are opened for the person whose parents are not satisfied. Even if a person’s parents are cruel, it is not lawful to oppose or speak harshly to them.
Allah Almighty says: “O Moses! There is a sin in sin that is too heavy and big in my eyes. That is, when parents call their child, they do not obey their commands.
If he does any work, if his parents call him, he will immediately leave him and run to his parents! If your parents get angry and yell at you, don’t tell them anything! If you want to get your parents’ prayers, try to do the things they ordered you to do quickly and beautifully! Fear that they will not like your work and they will annoy you and curse you! If they bother you, don’t be harsh with them! Now soothe their anger by kissing their hands! Take care of what is in the heart of your parents! Because your happiness and misfortune are the words that grow from their hearts. Help your parents when they are sick or old! Know your happiness in the good prayers you will receive from them! If you hurt them and accept their curse, your world and the Hereafter will be destroyed. The arrow does not return to the bow. Praise them while they are alive!
The consent of Allah Ta’ala is in the consent of the parents who follow their religion, the wrath of Allah Ta’ala is in the wrath of their parents who follow their religion.
Habib-i Kibria says in the hadith “Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam”:
“Heaven under the feet of mothers.” That is, it is with the consent of your parents who teach you your religion and beliefs.
Allah the Almighty said to Musa (peace be upon him):
“O Moses! He who pleases his parents pleases me. I like one of them, even those whose parents are pleased with me and rebel against me. Even if he rebels against his parents, I will associate him with the wicked. “
Those who believe will be the ones who will get out of Hell in the end.
Our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Doing good to parents, worship, fasting and pilgrimage [ve ömreye gitmek] More than his qualities. Those who serve their parents will have a fruitful and long life. Those who disobey their parents and rebel against them have a shorter lifespan. Cursed be he who disobeys his parents. “
While Hassan-i-Basri was inspecting and circumambulating the Ka’bah, he saw a man walking around with Zenbil behind him. He turned to the man and said: Friend, wouldn’t it be better to walk around with a load on your back? He replied, “It is not my burden, it is my father’s.” I brought it here from Damascus and circled it seven times. Because it taught me my religion and faith. He raised me with Islamic moral values, he said. Hazrat Hasan-i Basri (R) said to him, “If you bring it with you and walk around till the Day of Judgment, once your heart is broken, this service will go up in the air, and if you do your heart’s work for once, it will happen.” Many of these services must be valuable. “
A man came to our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)! My parents are dead. What should I do for them? Our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, Pray for! Read the Qur’an and ask forgiveness for them. “
One of the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “O Messenger of Allaah, is there anything more to be done? He said, “Give alms for them and perform Hajj.” Someone came out and said, my parents are very cruel, how can I obey them? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Your mother conceived you for nine months. She has been breastfeeding for two years. He fed you and hid you in your bosom until you grew up, he carried you in his arms. Your father used to feed you with a lot of hardships until you grew up. He provided his administration and livelihood. They have taught you your religion and your faith. They raised you with Islamic teachings. How can they be ruthless now? What greater mercy could there be? ”
There is a story about parents that when Prophet Moses (pbuh) was talking to His Majesty in Tur-i Sinai, “O Lord! Who is my neighbor in the hereafter? He asked. God the Almighty said, “O Moses! Your neighbor is a butcher in that place. “Musa (as) went to the butcher and said,” Will you accept me as a guest? He was a guest by his side. When it was time to eat, the butcher cooked a piece of meat. He gave flesh and water to a woman who had only bones. As the butcher was feeding his mother, the weak and helpless mother prayed for her son, O Lord, and even Moses heard him say, ‘Make my son a neighbor of Moses in Paradise.’ He gave the good news of Musa (peace be upon him) and said: Allah has forgiven you and made you a neighbor of Musa (peace be upon him).
If you break your parents’ hearts by indifference and confusion, try to get their consent immediately, beg, show gratitude and whatever you do, win their heart! Parents have great rights over their children. Always keep this in mind, act accordingly!
Forbidden: It is not permissible to rebel against mother, father, teacher and government. If they command something that is forbidden by Islam, then they should not rebel, commit crime and sin.
Shamsul-Aimme-i Serahsi’s “Rahime-Hullahu Ta’ala” [483 de vefât etti] On page 63, the translation of the Tafseer of Siyar-i Kibi says: It is obligatory to take advantage of the parents and to protect them from harm and suffering. On the other hand, going to jihad is fard-e kifaya, so it is not permissible to go to war without the permission of one’s parents. Even if the parents are disbelievers, it is obligatory to take advantage of them and serve them.
For business, Hajj and life it is permissible to travel without the permission of parents. So science is going to learn. Because, like war, there is no danger of death in them, so the grief of separation in the hope of reunion is removed.
It is not necessary to obey the command of parents and teachers, which will lead them to sin.
For example, when a woman is sent to a place for stealing, killing someone, or murder or adultery, if there is a man who can resist it, but her parents do not allow this man to stop, she must not listen. Resist them and theirs. Because, it is obligatory to abstain from sin. Obedience to parents is obligatory for their sinless command. Since it is a sin for parents to forsake duty, these commands are not followed.
In the nineteenth verse of the Nisa chapter it is said, “O you who believe! My Prophet was commanded to “Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam” and obey those among you.
Orders that are not sinful must be obeyed. Our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sent a small military unit to a place. He appointed a general over them. His superiors became angry with them and kindled a big fire and said, “Enter this fire, it is obligatory for me to obey.” Let’s go inside, said some soldiers. Some of them said, “We have become Muslims to escape the fire. Let us not enter and they have not entered.”
When our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) heard about it:
He said, “If they had obeyed and entered, they would have been in Hell forever.”
It has been said in Hadith Sharif:
“Obey the Muslim who has been appointed as your chief, no matter who he is, unless he gives instructions for haram!” Do not obey his command, which is forbidden. ”
Not to mention another thing. Rebellion means to oppose. These two things should not be confused.
[Siyer-i Kebîrden, buraya kadar yazılanlardan anlaşılıyor ki, ananın babanın, hocanın ve hükûmetin harâm olan şeyleri emretmeleri hâlinde, bunlara isyân edilmez.
Karşı gelinmez. Bu emirleri, dinde günâh olmayacak ve devletin kanûnunda suç olmayacak şekilde yapılır. Meselâ bir adama anası evlenme derse veyâ falanca kızı almayacaksın veyâ âileni bırakacaksın derse veyâ falanca Âlime gidip dînini öğrenmeyeceksin derse, bu sözleri İslâmiyet’in îcâb ettirdiği bir sebep ile değil ise, itâat îcâb etmez. Fakat, yine sert söylemek, karşılık vermek câiz değildir.
Allahu Teâlâ, vefat etmiş olan anne-babalarımıza rahmet eylesin, mekanlarını Cennet eylesin, Habibine komşu eylesin inşaallah.
Allahu Teâlâ cümlemizi ana-babasına layıkı ile hizmet eden salih kullarından eylesin, hayırlı evlatlar nasib eylesin. (Amin)