I would like to start our conversation this week with a quote from American crime thriller writer and screenwriter Raymond Chandler:
“The magic of the first kiss, the intimate kiss the second, the routine of the third kiss”.
I think one has to be a detective writer to explain the situation that poisons the relationship between two people who love each other, without being confused.
Let’s not forget that detective fiction writing as a genre of literature is possible only in the presence of such talent.
The statements made by two superstars in our city to two different magazines this month reminded me of Chandler’s words.
Kıvanç Tatlıtuğ told L’Official Magazine about his love for his wife Basak:
“I learned to love Basque in a different way every day. A lot of love was not enough because … a man begins to love when you try for his happiness.
When I feel happiness in his eyes, my stomach gets full. This is such a thing. The most important thing is to support the choices he has made. Otherwise everyone is getting married. You’re getting married … the main thing is to keep it going. “
Tatlıtuğ seems to summarize what needs to be done just before the “third kiss routine” stage.
Our second superstar is Kansu Dere. He is now an important artist who is known not only in Turkey but also in the Spanish-speaking geography.
Religion is love
I met him at a dinner at a friend’s house about a year ago, and the conclusion I have drawn from his attitude and speech that day was as follows: He will not be a temporary actor.
In fact, I can see that I did not make a mistake.
Dere also made a statement to the magazine, saying:
“The mistake that can easily get your claim denied is to fail.”
As you can see, there are extreme differences between the two superstars of our country.
Thus, we learn that Tatlıtuğ insists on continuing his love forever, while Dere sees this as a mistake.
You may recall that two weeks ago, I mentioned this issue in my article on Jennifer Lopez-Ben Affleck’s love revival.
He said the secret of an “immortal love” was to be able to withstand the storm in the first days of the relationship, and I added, “It requires two strong personalities.
This week I will tell you another love story.
Jane Birkin – Serge Gainsbourg romance that began in the late 1960’s and lasted “until death became part of them”!
This love, defined as the “cult gain of the bohemian world” was an example that the love of two lovers who truly love each other like crazy but can’t live together will never end.
If you look around you, you will see that there are many more lovers whose names are unknown to many, I am sure.
But we do not know their story.
Since no one knows, those unforgettable stories are in a small circle and are sent to eternity with those who know in time.
18 year difference
Jane Birkin and Serge Gainsbourg first met on the set of the movie “Slogan”, 18 years apart.
Jane was a little English rose bud, and Serge was a drunken Frenchman!
Film director Pierre Grimblatt thought the two main actors would be good for the movie, so he brought them to a dinner.
At dinner, as usual, Serge threw one bottle after another, lit a cigarette, extinguished the other, and did not speak.
Jane thought that this strange man did not like her at all.
He offered to dance to warm the air, and Serge reluctantly got up to dance, but during the dance he did not deliberately neglect to put his foot on Birkin’s feet.
After dinner, they went to a nightclub and from there to a Russian music hall. Vodka flowed like water.
At sunrise, Serge was dancing with Jane, Russian violinists lined the sidewalk in front of the club.
Eventually they got up at the hotel, went to Serge’s room, and as you can easily guess, Serge got out of bed.
Jane walked out of the room, bought a record of the song they were dancing on the sidewalk of the newly opened record store, dragged it to the feet of an intoxicated Serge and went to his hotel.
A few hours later, Serge calmed down, found the record, put it on a turntable, and lit a gitness called Jane.
Eros shot his arrow and managed to hit the heart of both Serge and Jane.
In those days, Jane had just divorced the legendary composer of the James Bond soundtrack, John Barry.
The best love song
Serge, on the other hand, has not yet healed the wounds inflicted on his soul by a night spent with Brigitte Bardot.
What was interesting was the incompetence of a man like Serge Gainsbourg in his first encounter with women.
Bardot Gunter was unhappy with his marriage to Shakespeare and decided to give Serge a chance, who chased him.
The two met at a dinner party, and Serge again drank bottles and packets of cigarettes, did not even look at Bardot’s face, did not utter a word.
A woman who saw herself as a “goddess” like Brigitte Bardot was outraged.
He woke up Serge on the phone in the morning and said that if he wanted another chance he would have to compose the best love song in the world for himself.
The essay was ready the next day, but not Bardot’s, Jane left a mark on our memory: Je t’aime moi non plus!
The song is the title of one of 16 songs that the BBC has banned from playing on their radio or TV channels throughout its history.
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Undoubtedly it was one of the most beautiful love songs in the world, but more importantly, it was probably the most erotic song in the world.
Birkin still denies the allegations, but the song was said to have been recorded with a tape recorder under the Serge couple’s bed.
Serge will later say: “1969 was an erotic year and that’s how we remember it.”
They were madly in love with each other, but they wanted to live like themselves, too much to be together for so long under the same roof.
Such love that Serge couldn’t stand Jane singing to other male composers.
“For me to sing another composer’s song, the composer has to be dead or an American,” Jane explained.
They also had a daughter named Charlotte. Their last conversation was on the phone in 1991.
Serge called Jane and said:
“I bought you a big diamond. You lost what I bought you, now you can wear it.”
“Off surge,” replied Birkin, “stop drinking.”
Death is divided
Imagine for a second you were transposed into the karmic driven world of Earl, Serge, who was hospitalized with a heart attack a few years ago, and made the following statement when he was released:
“I will increase my drinking and smoking to prolong my life.”
The story of Birkin and Gainesburg ended when death separated them.
Birkin is still alive, perhaps because I was in a hurry to finish this story.
Don’t worry about those who give their lives and time for love.
Sometimes there is a love that does not end even if you want to end!
It takes two free souls, first!
Two people who insist on their own existence and refuse to melt into the soul of the one they are attracted to.
In this type of relationship, there is always a talk, a kiss.
And before that last word, the last kiss is given, love does not end, it cannot end.
This article by Mehmet Y. Yılmaz is taken from the Oxygen newspaper.