Children who do not eat in kindergarten / school – Deniz Temur

Finding out the reasons for not eating in kindergarten / school should be a family priority to find a solution. Because the behavior of not eating in kindergarten / school is not a cause for the children but the result. In fact, children want to tell us that they have another problem with not eating at school / nursery.

The problem of not eating in kindergarten and school is a common situation for parents. Knowing that their children are hungry in kindergartens and kindergartens can create a situation where they believe in helping their children develop and take care of them, which puts every parent under high pressure. I think writing an article about the advice and solutions I offer in this situation, which I often encounter among my clients, would also be helpful for parents who have the same problem.

Do not forget the effects of the Kovid-19 epidemic!

When trying to find a solution to the problem of not eating at school / nursery, it would be helpful not to ignore the effects of the Kovid-19 epidemic on children. For children who have lived in the safe environment of their home for more than 1.5 years and their social environment and away from school, starting school / nursery will be a much more difficult experience. Since the beginning of the epidemic, we have kept our children indoors, signaling them ‘dangerous outside’. We keep signaling to them that the roads are dirty and dangerous, such as not communicating with other people, constantly cleaning their hands, not eating out, walking behind masks, even when going out for a limited time. Such long-term experiences can produce consequences that force anxiety control in children. When they go to school, it can cause anxiety as their friends sitting next to them can make them sick, the food is dirty, they should not put their hands in their mouths. In an environment where anxiety increases, feeding stops. If you see such an effect on your child, you can try to feed him as a family in a safe environment outside the home to comfort him and you can simply tell your child that he is safe. The best thing to do is to give the children time to get used to their old routine.

Analyze emotions properly

Whether it is a nursery, kindergarten or school, the new environment creates anxiety and stress for children. It takes time for children to get out of the environment they are accustomed to and believe in, to get used to new people and places and relationships. Although some children adapt more easily to the new environment because of their nature or past experience, the situation is the opposite for most children. Stress and anxiety caused by change cause compulsive physiological responses in children. These reactions include abdominal pain and nausea. Just like the adult world. When aroused, the bowel moves and this movement makes feeding difficult. Start by acknowledging that your child needs time to get used to day-care, and warn both you and the educator not to worry about eating behavioral changes. Over time, as he adapts to the environment, he becomes more open to experience.

Children who do not want to go to kindergarten

Adapting to a new environment can be even more challenging for some kids. Although time passes, they cannot adapt to the environment and people. If your baby still cries at the nursery door despite the passage of time, does not want to leave you, does not show interest in games and activities during the day, if he begins to create an aggressive or highly introverted mood at home. If you notice a change in the way she sleeps and in the toilet, it means that your baby may not be able to adapt to the environment. It is normal and understandable for your child not to eat in such a situation. Because nutrition is not possible without faith. Here, attention should not be paid to the child’s eating habits, but to why he or she does not adapt to the nursery environment. Get expert help if necessary, re-analyze the nursery environment and purposefully evaluate whether it is suitable for your child.

Children are forced to eat

In settings like kindergarten and school, children are often forced by an adult to take their part and eat the food chosen. While this coercion does not always involve physical intervention, it may include psychological intervention to develop ‘follow the rules’ behavior and not to disrupt group behavior. If your child is forced to eat the food given to him or if he is expected to finish the portion even though it is more than he needs, if he is deprived of disciplinary action such as reward or punishment when he behaves otherwise, he refuses to eat. It would be more effective to ask about the organization’s feeding time, not the baby’s. The size of the child’s portion and the right to choose their food in the care provider is as important as their protection and parents should clearly state their position on this issue. If your child is forced to eat with physical or mental intervention in the name of discipline, you should prevent it.

Unfamiliar tastes and flavors can be difficult

If, prior to the nursery / school setting, children are always fed by the same person, if they do not have sufficient experience with new tastes and textures, rejection of their food in the nursery may be the result of their habit. The color of the food, the salt, the vegetables and even the shape of the meat balls make the children perceive the food differently. In such cases, they avoid trying because they cannot build confidence in eating. If you think you have encountered such a situation, get a photo of the school menu and every meal cooked. Cook the food in the same picture at home with the activities that include your child. This will change your child’s attitude towards food with different looks and will relax them over time.

Magic Formula: The Game

The magic formula that will enable children to overcome all difficulties in life is called ‘Game’. Children reflect all their emotions in games. Playing with them and seeing their behavior in their game lets parents see the problems and difficulties. Similarly, playing with parents, spending quality time, laughing, all the silly but funny things that are done make children emotionally strong and make them feel safe. If your child is being cared for in the nursery, be sure to increase the quality of play and time which will strengthen communication in the family. Make sure your baby is happy and smiling all the time you spend with him. Find out how the weekend smile can soothe tears at the nursery door on Monday.

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