These behaviors, which can make parents very tired and anxious, try to get children out of childhood and establish themselves as individuals.2 year old syndromeThis constitutes its common symptom. During this time, children who want to prove their personality may show a stubborn and aggressive attitude and may conflict with their parents. Although ‘2-year-old syndrome’, which develops from 18 months and lasts up to 36 months, is seen in every child, it does not progress with the same intensity. This is because the mood of each child is different, as is the attitude of their parents.
Dr. Acıbadem. Clinical psychologist Maine Shahbaz, a specialist at Sinasi Can (Kadaki) Hospital, says that ‘2-year-old syndrome’ in children is an important process that should be handled with care by parents. And part of a very healthy development with the effort of autonomy. Before puberty we can describe the ‘2 year old syndrome’ as the first separation process. It is not the child’s crying, anger or stubbornness that can make the process more challenging. The process should not turn into competition and power struggles among children. Otherwise, the child’s separation process may be hampered and Said
Do not prevent the explosion of anger!
In children with ‘2-year-old syndrome’, it is important to create space for crying outbursts and outbursts of anger, in other words, to allow them to reflect intense emotions (including crying and physical reactions) and not to interrupt. Feelings because emotions that cannot be expressed do not disappear, on the contrary, they find a way to express them psychologically through the body as they are suppressed. When you experience these feelings, it will be healthier for you to wait by her side until she calms down, hug her when you feel like it, and soften her process in a soft tone like ‘Hum Hum’, as you did in childhood. , And wait silently if he doesn’t want any of them.
Don’t be upset, don’t send him to his house
Specialist Clinical Psychologist Maine Shahbaz, who warned that “being upset, sending a baby to a room and crying in a crying crisis is a reaction we don’t want to happen,” explains why: The person may feel insecure and may not seek help in difficult times. Therefore, in this sense it is important that you stay with him until he is calm. “
If he is stubborn, offer options.
During this time, it is important to be able to capture the emotion behind your child’s response. Expert clinical psychologist Maine Shahbaz says the 2-year-old period is a period when children’s perceptions about boundaries begin to form and continue: “As a parent, you should not be too free or too strict. Giving your child options and letting them know that they are making decisions will benefit their personality development. In addition, if there are situations where no alternative is offered, it will suffice with the experience of frustration. Your child may object to what you eat or may not wear the pajamas you choose. In such a moment, you have to step back to its limits and open the space. You can give food a few hours later by saying ‘you don’t want to eat it now, I misunderstood’. You can give her the option to wear something reasonable instead of the pajamas she doesn’t want to wear. “
Don’t say “you hurt me, you hurt me”!
If your child has hurt behavior, don’t use phrases like ‘you hurt me’, ‘see you hurt me’. Explaining that such statements will increase the feeling of guilt in the child, expert clinical psychologist Main Shahbaz said, “Accused children will also have a tendency to continue this cycle of behavior. Conversely, when your child hurts you, you should stop and remind them not to do it with you through the sentences ‘You can’t hurt me, we can’t hurt each other’. Facing negative reactions without breaking down and not feeling guilty will greatly contribute to the healing process. Then you can give instructions like ‘You can hit the pillow, not the ball, not me’. After the crisis, you can tell your child that he is angry with you and that is why he is behaving in such a way, you can see it, but it should not be resolved by hitting. Gives information.
Play games together
Raising sensitive games and toys in your home will make it easier for your child to calm down. Creating a place where he will be able to release compulsive emotions from the body such as flour, water play, soft balls and sound musical instruments that he feels during the day through toys. By playing physically active games with your child at home, you can make him more open to cooperation.